Many
moons ago my work colleagues and I had a discussion about parenting and what kind of mums we would be. Some said
that I would be strict, others suggested that I would be loving and
caring.
But
what do I think?! From what I can remember as a child my
mum was loving and strict at the same time. I wasn't allowed to cross
the road alone, I wasn't allowed to leave the
playground which was in front of our house, but at the same time when
and if I had problems she was always sorting them out for me, was
there for me when I was poorly, I guess as any parent would. But I
think there were more “DON'Ts” than “DOs” in our
relationship.
I'm
100% sure that I will be strict, overprotective not that I want to,
but I was a child myself and by nature I would try to
protect my daughter, even though deep down I know she would need to
make them in order to learn and do things differently next time.
I
know, I know I'm ahead of myself, firstly we will have a small bundle
of joy, and I would like to be:
- Caring
- Loving
- Relaxed
- Fun
- Enthusiastic
- Patient
- Calm
- Protective
- Supportive
- Happy
- Positive
What
kind of mum/parent you want (ed) to be?
Parenting is hard. I had visions of only feeding the kids healthy homecooked meals, no junk, no sweets, no juice, very little TV...until I had kids! I like to think I'm firm but fair. I dont wrap them in cotton wool and stop them exploring and learning but I have boundaries that they know they can't cross.I think your list is a great list - just be prepared that the calm and patience might get tested often as toddlers!! Looking forward to a baby post from you any day now so good luck! #binkylinky
ReplyDeleteThe absolute opposite to how I thought I would. I'm a total flip side of my mother which she can be quite scathing about but I'm happy in how I do it which is what matters! #binkylinky
ReplyDeleteI wanted to be a mum who never shouts at her kids, was always patient and never grumpy! I don't shout often, sometimes lose my patience and am often grumpy, but I know I'm a good mum! No-one is perfect! Thanks for linking up to the #binkylinky
ReplyDeleteI think it's so difficult and even once we become parents we won't always see what sort we are! I think I'll be fairly strict, in the way of toddlers knowing boundaries and the meaning of 'Sorry' etc, but this conflicts with my friend who thinks that you should never make an under 5 say sorry. She doesn't have children yet. We'll see what happens when the time comes! I'm sure you'll do great and get a good balance xx #PoCoLo
ReplyDeleteI have a daughter who graduated high school this year and will be heading to college in the fall. My son will be a senior in high school. If you would have told me 18 years ago that this would happen I would have looked at you a little funny. I just gave them food, water, sunlight and a lot of love. Love is the key.
ReplyDeleteI just wanted to be the best for my son. I am thinking I am not giving him my 100% so I need to work harder. It is very very hard to be a mother alone in a foreign country esp when my son is sick. I wish I am home in the comforts of my mother, aunts and sister. I feel that if I am there I will be a better mother. #pocolo
ReplyDeleteI think I am very very protective, but all in a good way, (I hope !) :) its hard to know, what to do for best, so follow your heart on this one :)
ReplyDeleteI am a firm but fair parent. I have instilled manners from the outset and regularly try to make sure Grace isn't spoiled. I really would love to be a Mum again. I have no doubt you will be great. Thank you for linking to PoCoLo :) x
ReplyDeleteFollow your heart! Every tackles parenting differently. #BinkyLinky
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