Last
Thursday I had my 31 weeks appointment. That was one of the quickest
appointments I had but I had to wait 30
minutes for midwife to finish off with the previous lady, I know
circumstances can be different.
As
last time I was worried with my bump measurements she measured me few
times to make sure all is correct and said that I measured slightly
more for my weeks, which is weird as I have one of the smallest bumps
in the world.
As
you know I have joined C&G Baby Club Community and as I chat to other
mums-to-be and read about their experiences with midwives, mostly not so
positive ones I now started to be more skeptical towards what midwives say. For instance, I have asked her about my baby's position, she
said that baby is head down when though she used doppler to check
heartbeat said that baby is actually all over the place, well that's
not very helpful! I'm so happy that we booked a private scan for this
Saturday and sonographer will tell us everything about our baby.
Then
she weighed me and said that I lost weight since booking appointment,
I actually lost weight even more since then, they just didn't monitor
it at all. But again she wasn't worried and said it's all due to me
exercising, she actually looked relieved that she didn't have to do
anything about it as I came up with an answer for her.
Then
she said that we will discuss baby sleeping, by that she actually
meant that she will quickly mention that after baby arrives they will
asses sleeping arrangements, no co-sleeping, bed should be by my side
and gave me Lullaby Trust booklet as it has all needed info.
Extremely informative discussion! And I was surprised why my very
first midwife ticked boxes in discussed sections as if we discussed
it and we never actually did.
I
started thinking that with useless midwives like this one and
previous ones I could make a better one, shame I don't want to be a
"forever student".
I
really think I'm wasting my time with these appointments and not
learning anything new, I have learned much more by reading comments,
blogs and participating in chats with other mums (to-be) online,
that's a shame that midwives don't want to really perform, but at
least everything is going well in my pregnancy!
That's a real shame, we are lucky to have a wonderful midwife unit where I live who were so helpful with my first. I wanted to co sleep and they were really supportive and even drew my diagrams of safe sleeping positions!
ReplyDeletePerhaps you could have a word with the head of the unit and say you don't feel you are getting the support you need x Char
#MMWBH
Its such a shame that your not learning anything new with your midwife appointments. But at least you know where to get new and helpful information if/when you need it. 31wks! EEEEPPP!! So exciting! Thanks so much for linking up! #MMWBH x
ReplyDeleteGlad all is well but I am so sorry you didn't get a very informative and attentive midwife. That's a shame. I am glad you still research and read blogs and find your answers. So you are not alone in your journey or questions. A lot of us all have the same questions in the begining. So it's good to hear everyone's advice and opinions and take what you want from each. Thank you so much for linking to Share With Me. Best of luck over the next few weeks hun. #sharewithme
ReplyDeleteAwww thats a shame! I seemed to see a different MW every time when I had my appointments! Not long to go now! :) Good Luck with it all xx
ReplyDeleteMy OBGyne is Manila is one of the best hence a long wait time but she will answer everything and anything that you will ask. And yes I learn new things everytime I go to her. She also gave me vitamins that helped me have more milk! Shes so good but shes not from here tho. #sharewithme
ReplyDeleteSuch a shame about your appointments, but i'm glad you can read other blogs and find information online. That's where I did a lot of my research through pregnancy x
ReplyDeleteYou've reached the stage that I was blogging about a good 6-8wks ago. It's a pretty crap realisation isnt it :-(
ReplyDelete#brilliantblogposts would love it if you came over and said hi! carsonsmummy.blogspot.co.uk xx
At least you've only got a short while left of having to put up with midwives! Congratulations by the way, you must be really excited!
ReplyDeleteOh I totally know where you are coming from! With my last pregnancy I had a different midwife at every appointment and they all said something a bit different. Apart from the wee testing I did rather wonder why I was going!
ReplyDeleteMidwife care seems to be getting worse nowadays. My midwife with my first was a witch. My midwife with my second wasn't so bad but I had a stand in one time and she accused me of being on a diet when pregnant! But you haven't got long now to go, grin and bear it for now and you wont have to see them again soon.
ReplyDeleteThank you for linking up with the #WeekendBlogHop
Laura x x x
I have the worlds worst midwife too. I called her in early pregnancy, left 4 messages and text her once and never once got a reply. She didn't want to let me hear babys heart beat, she said it wasn't routine anymore. I ended up getting her to let me listen in the end.
ReplyDeleteOh no, you can change midwife if you want to, even at this late stage. Glad blogs are helping. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts
ReplyDeleteI don't think you have to do a lot of your midwife training these days before you start seeing patients. I think I was lucky my midwife was an "older" lady who knew things from experience!
ReplyDeleteThanks for linking up with #WeekendBlogHop!