Showing posts with label breastfeeding. Show all posts
Showing posts with label breastfeeding. Show all posts

Monday, 17 October 2016

My breastfeeding regrets

My breastfeeding journey started 2 years and 3 months ago, with it's ups and downs I was very determined to breastfeed L exclusively to proof to everyone that it can be done no matter what you just have to be determined and want to do it for your baby. I knew it is right for L, I wanted to try it as didn't see any other option and was determined to stick to it no matter what, no matter how hard it gets.

I have read different books about breastfeeding but didn't really learn much from them, have visited breastfeeding class prior to giving birth and have learned about the benefits, that you need to persevere, how to hold imaginary baby and where to buy nursing bras. These all now seems so irrelevant and not useful at all. 

Breastfeeding is not about free food your baby receives and other benefits that come with breastfeeding, it's not about correct breastfeeding positions advised by midwives (I used to hold L the way it was most comfortable to me which was very different to the advice given), it's not about sticking middle finger to other mums proving that you did it without a single drop of formula it's about your inner balance, it's about what works for you and your baby, about receiving valuable support and real advice, about the bond between you, your baby and your partner, it's about you feeling relaxed and not pressured my your own guilt or the world around you!

My breastfeeding journey was such a whirlwind, now looking back all I wish is that someone, be it one of the breastfeeding peer supporters, my family, people I met told me- "You are pressuring yourself too much, darling! Try mixed feeding L won't change if you do it, but you will for the better!".

I wish people remembered how hard it is to be a new mum, to be stressed because your hungry baby is screaming and can't sleep. It's not about fighting the corner for formula or for the breast milk, I will be always supporting breastfeeding, but if I knew then what I know now I would have made different choices which would have made my life as a mum, as a woman and as a wife less stressful and pressured. 

Monday, 21 March 2016

Breastfeeding & Formula

                           
Breastfeeding vs bottle feeding always spark a passionate debate on my social media. Jamie Oliver's comments about breastfeeding have spark yet another debate between mums and dads.

I have always wanted to breastfeed L, we had lots of bottles prepared, manual and electric pumps, breastfeeding cover and a very comfy breastfeeding cushion but on the window seal in the corner, hidden away from every one else we had a starter pack with formula. 

Every time we had midwife around who wasn't happy about L's weight gain even though it was steady but slow I doubted myself, I doubted my ability to breastfeed. I felt so awful, first they shake their heads, then say that I'm doing a great job, if that was their way of supporting it was pretty rubbish! 
My husband saw the state of me and insisted on introducing formula, to me it felt like the most selfish decision I could have made. Why would I do such a thing?! I would do everything I can do breastfeed L, I would stick at it and prove to myself and other people that it is possible to do no matter what.

Almost 2 years later I'm still very passionate about breastfeeding and proud at what I have achieved but my opinion about formula has changed.
I put enormous amount of pressure on myself and didn't give my husband a chance to offer a bottle and be more involved in feeding. I didn't leave L for longer than couple of hours, I didn't go out to enjoy myself, we couldn't go out to a pub or cafe because she was either hungry or upset, it is of course all worth it, but I wish someone told me to take it easy. 
Now I see no harm in mixed feeding, as we would be so much calmer and relaxed. I'm not saying I am supporting formula feeding more now I will be always a breastfeeding advocate, but I do understand and support those who have tried breastfeeding but have low milk supply, those who have twins, health condition or premature babies but opted to bottle feed.

But I do not yet understand those parents who have opted for formula without trying breastfeeding first. I know I don't have to, it's their choice ..

Monday, 8 February 2016

Review: Boobbix lactation cookies

I have never thought that will be breastfeeding L for so long. For me it is more than just breastfeeding, it's our bonding, cuddling time, a morning and evening snack, "mummy I'm poorly, need milk" calming down time. I don't care that she pulls my top, I don't care that she constantly puts her hands inside my bra, if she is happy that way so am I. 
As I have never been convinced that I have enough milk I'm always looking for products that can increase lactation. Few weeks ago I came across Boobbix lactation cookies and thought it it would be lovely to mix the pleasure of eating cookies which are potentially tasty and useful! 

"Boobbix makes and sells delicious and healthy lactation cookies and cakes for breastfeeding mums that can help to increase milk supply".

I was really impressed with the design of the box (purple is my favourite colour) and was really surprised to see 10 individually packed cookies.  At first I didn't see how practical it could be: all the crumbs stay in a packet and it's so easy to put it in a bag when out and about.


I specifically picked cranberry and almond (£10.50 per box) as I wanted to try something different, a combination of flavours I have never tried before. You can also buy: chocolate chip and oats; date and ginger; oatmeal and raisin; peanut butter chocolate chip cookies.
Once I've tried my first Boobbix cookie I couldn't stop, all the flavours seems to work very well. 
My darling L decided to join me and wouldn't let me go until I give her all the cranberries. 

"Our heavenly Almond and Cranberry Lactation Cookies are filled with Organic Almond Butter and dried Cranberries, and not only taste good, but can also increase breast milk production!

As well as containing Oats, Brewer’s Yeast, Fenugreek and Flaxseed, all traditional remedies to boost milk supply, Boobbix cookies are packed full of vitamins and minerals, including fibre, iron, calcium, protein and Omega 3...


Good nutrition is very important for you and your baby when breastfeeding, especially when you are a new mum and we know finding time to eat is tough so snacking is inevitable. Boobbix cookies are a great way of increasing milk, getting a quick energy boost and satisfying your hunger and cravings!"


I couldn't find information about the dosage on the box but Boobbix website recommends to have 1 or 2 cookies a day as a part of 2500-2700 kcal daily food intake for a breastfeeding mother.

As I didn't know how Boobix will affect my lactation I decided to have a cookie every other day so that I can assess any changes. I have noticed that L "drinks" more milk, as I could hear her, last time it happened when L was newborn and my milk was coming through. Couple of days ago I also had a blocked duct which is too me a sign that I have more milk that usual. If it's not all because of Boobix cookies then it's an interesting coincidence.

I have enjoyed testing/eating these cookies so much that have recommended them on my local breastfeeding support group. To be it's the best sign of a great product!


Disclaimer: I was sent the item mentioned above for the purpose of this review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

Monday, 4 January 2016

Review: Freida's Pantry Feeding Food bars

I remember those first few weeks of L's life when I have tried everything I could to up my milk supply. To say the truth I don't think any of the teas, pumping, expressing, having more drinks or dairy helped me at all. I felt lots of pressure from midwives and health visitors and of course I wanted it to work. It's such a shame that only now I came across Freida's pantry as I would love to see how it would have worked for me back then.
"We make the UK's healthiest food bars for pregnant and nursing mums - and tired dads too! We believe in natural nutrition and will do all we can to support your new family naturally".

I have received 2 pre-pregnancy/during pregnancy bars and 2 breastfeeding food bars.

Both types of bars can be purchased here or via Ocado website in packs of 3, 5, 7 and 14 bars, with individual bars priced at £1.20 which seems quite reasonable. 

"Healthy And Nutrient Packed Pre-Pregnancy / During Pregnancy Bars. Freida’s Feeding Food is a tasty and nutritious food bar full of healthy oats, nuts and seeds:
- a convenient and portable snack for busy mums on the go
- helps with additional calories through healthy fats
- high in fibre and a source of omega 3 and 6


                                  
Freida’s Feeding Food is a tasty and nutritious food bar full of healthy oats, nuts and seeds:
- a convenient and portable snack for busy mums on the go
- helps with additional calories through healthy fats
- high in fibre and a source of omega 3 and 6".


When I had a first bite of the Freida's feeding food bar I noticed an overpowering sweet fennel taste which put me off a little bit, but if I had a chance to try it earlier when the supply was low I wouldn't care about it and just kept going. 
The pre- preganncy/ during pregnancy bar on the other hand tastes very sweet, but  dry. 

Tip: once I have tried it with a yogurt or dairy drink it tasted so much better! So I would certainly recommend it to have it with a drink and not by itself!

It is quite feeling and gives you that boost which most of us mums need for the day to get on with our duties. 
I have read about parents batch cooking and freezing their meals for the first few weeks when new baby arrives but have never considered doing it myself! Now I know it was a big mistake and Freida's pantry bars could have been a great, handy and helpful snack for those hungry, hands full/busy moments. 

Overall, I didn't feel any difference in my supply as I have tried the bars when my supply was established, but I'm happy that I have discovered the brand as I would certainly recommend it to my expecting mum friends and would love to see if it actually works.

Disclaimer: I was sent the item mentioned above for the purpose of this review. All thoughts and opinions are my own.

Wednesday, 2 December 2015

My breastfeeding journey..how it started


When I was pregnant I have read different books about first few days with a new baby and breastfeeding a newborn, how little did I know, that breastfeeding wouldn't be as easy as I thought.

When L was born we had a skin to skin and I tried to latch her onto my breast, but she didn't seem interested. I was reassured that it's normal, that we should try again sometime later and if not then she will definitely be hungry in 12 hours. First day we spent having lots of skin to skin, attempts to feed but nothing worked. Once midwives realised that it's been over 12 hours and L didn't latch they tried to call breastfeeding counselor to see if she can assess the situation ans suggest what to do, but in the meantime midwives offered to hand express colostrum in a small syringe. I was shown how to hand express which seemed easy, but once I started expressing I realised that it is a hard work!

My sister was helping me with expressing during visiting hours and at night a student midwife was helping every 2 hours. As I had a privilege of staying in my own room it felt less stressful as I didn't have to think about other mums or babies but nonetheless it was a very difficult time. L was constantly crying from hunger, because of that she refused to sleep and I felt embarrassed to press the bell every time I needed help expressing. I crumbled once when my little helper-student midwife finished her shift and instead I had a middle-aged midwife who didn't give a monkeys about me being upset and not knowing how to handle crying baby and hand expressing tiny amounts into a tiny syringe. Her stern face and an attitude were like a slap on my chick telling me to get on with it. I couldn't wait till the next day, I hoped for a better day, more colostrum and of course my husband next to me. The next day I had 2 lovely meals at the hospital and lots of different midwives trying to help us. This time they showed us how to use electric pump and tried cup feeding, once they saw that I'm comfortable with it they discharged me.

When we arrived home it was time to feed L and as I have learnt how to use hospital electric pump I was confident in using the one I have prepared to use at home. I have read all instructions, put it all up and started expressing or trying to. I sat their listening to a loud noise of he electric pump and watching the only drop of milk being stuck in one of the tubes. We have check the pump together, tried again and still no milk. I tried hand expressing-nothing came out again, and then in the moment of despair I put L to latch on my breast, I couldn't believe my eyes for the first time L latched and was drinking! 

Our second night we have spent trying to express milk with electric pump, hand express and constantly called midwife's emergency numbers for advice and support. 
The next few days we had different midwives shaking their heads in disappointment that L didn't put enough weight (it is the reason why 16 months later I still stress about L's weight), had different breastfeeding support workers talking to us, showing us techniques, health visitor giving us completely different advice from what breastfeeding workers told us with regards to breastfeeding. 
For the first 6 weeks L was slowly but putting weight on and since then she stayed on 9th centile line going up and down.
But once I was confident in breastfeeding, knew what is right for me and L I relaxed and enjoyed every single minute of breastfeeding. 
The first few weeks were hard, confusing and overwhelming, but I stayed strong and stubborn because I wanted to do this for my daughter, to proof to others that I can do it, to show that only those who believe and persevere can do this as well. 

No matter how hard it was it is an incredible experience and 17 months later I don't want it to stop. 

Tuesday, 1 December 2015

Celebrating Breastfeeding Christmas Extravaganza giveaway

Christmas is my favourite time of the year, I love family gatherings, relaxed atmosphere, presents exchange and watching Home Alone or Gremlins, what more can you wish for?!
Last year we were meant to celebrate our first Christmas as a family of 3 but as we all had a bug we stayed at home trying to recover. This year I'm hoping we will have a great time and share the day with our close family and friends!

As L is still small it might be a little bit overwhelming for her to see lots of people, even though she loves attention and seeing familiar faces but I hope if she is relaxed enough, fed and entertained she will have lots of fun!

I will rule myself out from any meal preparations this year, I'm not good at it anyway, and will try to concentrate on keeping L happy. I think it is very important to stay stress free as baby/toddler can sense when mummy is upset or stressed.
I will pack all the necessaries for L and will take my breastfeeding cover which I didn't use for ages as I prefer to feed L discreetly on my own and if it's getting too much me and L can always sneak into one of the bedroom to feed and have a rest.
Breastfeeding during Christmas holidays could also be a great excuse for an extra mince pie or trifle, who would want to say "no" to a breastfeeding mother who is always hungry and need some extra calories.
I'm not ready to drink alcohol yet, I haven't done it for 2 years, but will bring non-alcoholic wine and juices with us in case anyone wants to say a toast. But it doesn't have to be boring I might make or ask someone to make a non-alcoholic cocktail for myself.
If I want a little bit child free time I will be more than happy to pass L to one of her aunties and grandparents, I'm sure they will love it as well.
Fingers crossed that all goes to plan!

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Wednesday, 5 August 2015

Extended Breastfeeding past one year (Keep Britain Breastfeeding Scavenger Hunt 2015)

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I can't believe it's been a whole year since I have started breastfeeding. It was my plan all along as I didn't see any other option and I'm so glad I stick to it.
It wasn't as easy as I thought, those women who have it easy are extremely lucky!
L was reluctant to nurse and I didn't have enough colostrum. I had to hand express into syringe and what I had (1ml or so at a time) to give to L, absolutely overwhelming moment for me as I was so sure that breastfeeding is an extremely easy- express and feed.
The first night I have spent hand expressing every 2 hours thanks to the student midwife.
On day 2 when we came home I had high hopes for my dutch electric pump and I was absolutely devastated to see the only milk drop I had was stuck in the pump tube!
A week later I was sent to the local children centre to see a breastfeeding counsellor who fixed our latch which meant that at least one problem was out of the way. 

My supply on the other hand wasn't getting better, I was eating enough, drinking plenty, tried nursing tea and was breastfeeding L every 2 hours, but I was and still convinced that I don't have enough milk. None of the pumps worked for me and for the first 4-5 months I had to hand express which I wasn't enjoying as I didn't see much coming out plus it was a very time- consuming process. 

L wasn't putting much weight you see and I was under lots of pressure from community midwives and health visitors, some of them were shaking their heads in disappointment when L put only 100 grams in 1 week, others tried to encourage saying how good I'm doing but if by 6 weeks she won't put her birth weight they would insist on topping up with formula.

I'm not against formula, but it was never my plan to give up, but I didn't feel supported from the community midwives at all, in fact they made me doubt myself. Even now I have days when I'm not convinced L had enough milk or she is getting any, the bad memories of early days are stuck in my head! That's why it is so important to have a network support, someone to reassure you, your family, community midwives, breastfeeding support workers and keep persevering!

People were right saying that it gets easier, it does! I absolutely love the connection we have when I breastfeed L. I try to breastfeeding her first thing in the morning, before or after her naps (we have 2 during the day) and before she goes to bed. I can see how much she enjoys these moments as well, how she is used to it as her hand is always in my bra and how her face lights up when she sees a boob, all the pain, stress and struggles are absolutely worth it! 
I'm not sure yet how long our breastfeeding journey will last but I'm certainly not stopping yet!

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Tuesday, 14 April 2015

Review: Minbie bottle and teats

For some (my husband is one of them) bottle feeding associated with formula and valuable bonding between father and a child. I beg a differ,  I'm not saying it is incorrect or I don't believe in this, I think that regardless of the feeding method a father can always bond with a child if he has a desire to do so. I am a breastfeeding mother and I am convinced it is the best feeding method for my little one, but it seems that my husband is left behind. I here you ask "Why?". Well, our lovely bundle of joy refuses to take a bottle. 

To be truly honest with you I hate expressing, I will never forget how my new Dutch electric pump refused to work when we brought L home meaning I was forced to hand express. It was convenient at that time for us as I wasn't really comfortable with breastfeeding on public and we decided that it would be best if I have a bottle of expressed milk with us. First few weeks L didn't mind a bottle, I had tried few brands, in one of them my milk suddenly became curdled, second one had a fast flow even though it said it wouldn't and my baby was choking whilst drinking and the third one was just fine, until L decided that she doesn't like it. In total I think we tried 5 different brand none of them worked L refused any bottle given to her and only accepted my breasts. 
Whilst I hate expressing I would love if my husband can get involved with feeding as well. He can help me out a little bit when I give her solids but it seems that he needed that early days/weeks bonding. When I came across Minbie I thought that it could be a new start, they can finally have their moment together and even if I hate expressing I can do it for them both. It took me a while to convince my hubby to try bottle feeding again but we are slowly getting there.

Minbie’s bottle teats promote the all-important instinctive breastfeeding technique, so if you switch between breast and bottle, your baby’s natural breastfeeding technique can remain undamaged. Minbie teat designed to support your newborn’s instinctive breastfeeding technique. This means that when newborns feed from Minbie they practice the instinctive latch and feeding-action for nurturing breastfeeding. This is a significant breakthrough in matching breast and bottle-feeding techniques and preventing feeding-confusion.

Minbie features:
  • Supports your baby's instinctive feeding technique
  • Nurtures instinctive latch and breastfeeding action
  • Helps release natural digestive enzymes
  • Supports mother-baby bonding
  • Air-vent adjusts to your baby's feed rate
  • BPA-free biocompatible soft-silicone teats

As L was born not knowing how to latch properly and I have seen lots of other mums struggling with exactly the same problem I'm not sure how Minbie can work it's magic for newborns but the website states "allows to bottle feed with the instinctive breastfeeding technique that they are born with because why shouldn't they be able to feed intuitively with the technique that is developmentally right for them".

I have received a Minbie plastic bottle and a set of teats for 3+ months. 

You will be very surprised to know that Minbie bottles (120 ml, glass bottle or plastic bottle 180 ml, £4.65) which are 120ml are made of glass, which is not very common in the UK.  
The bottle comes with the silicone seal for storing in a fridge and looks like a normal bottle but with only blue rim.

The Minbie teat (prem, 0+, 3+ £9.83) is made of a silicone and is compatible with standard wide-neck baby bottles, but to avoid disappointment it is recommended to use both products together. The pack comes with the storage pot which can be used as a bottle lid.

I am not a bottle pro and I am happy to receive and use what we have but thinking about other mums it would be great if Minbie had a bigger variety of sizes.


L is still a little bit fussy with the Minbie bottles but she takes them every other time which is already a small progress. I have also noticed that she has to work at the feed which she used to do with the bottle she preferred when was smaller.

Needs improvement:
- the lid is not closing properly (doesn't click), which means it can be easily removed, lost in a bag or when in a cup holder
- it would be nice to see additional products- anti-slip holder for a glass bottle and anti-colic bottles
- variety of bottle colours suitable for both genders


Disclaimer: I was sent the above items for the purpose of this review. All thought and opinions are my own.

Tuesday, 17 March 2015

Review: Ava Nursing Top by Mama Milk

When I was pregnant I didn't give much thought to breastfeeding clothes until I've realised that sometimes it is more convenient to have an easy access to the breast rather than to lift jumpers or tops and freeze my back.

I did a small research and found out that there are 2 types of clothing shops for breastfeeding mums: expensive ones and those who sell small sizes (max size 14 or 16). How disappointing right?! 

Thankfully I found Bella Mama who kindly offered to review Ava nursing top (£22). 

Bella Mama is a small, busy boutique specialising in chic, contemporary breastfeeding clothing and transitional maternity wear for new mamas, blending fabulous style with amazing comfort. To complement this, we also offer a lovely range of beautiful baby bags,swaddling blankets, nursing necklaces, nursing covers, changing mats and indulgent skincare.

  • Beautiful everyday wrap front breastfeeding top, with soft stretchy cotton modal mix fabric to fit and flatter your figure
  • The double layer at the front, and shaping at the waist is also wonderful at minimizing the appearance of the tummy.
  • Nursing Access: Easily feed baby by pulling aside the neckline to access the nursing openings.
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    The Ava nursing top in black (comes in amethyst colour as well) is a very practical, smart looking and flattering. I wanted to feel comfortable whilst breastfeeding and the Ava top certainly gives me this feeling. It doesn't look like a typical baggy top, you can wear Ava for an occasion as well. 
    I was a little bit worried about "love handles" and big-ish arms but Ava top complements my figure and it's soft fabric seems to hide those lumps and bumps I didn't want to be on show as well as it is very easy to clean if you had a little bit of baby sick or baby food on just use wet wipes and it will look as good as new.

    Most importantly it is very easy to feed in by using the holes in the under layer, which looks quite discreet. Having said that I always use nursing cover when out and about as it is more convenient for me to have an extra layer covering myself and my baby.


    Disclaimer: I was sent the above item for the purpose of this review. All thought and opinions are my own.

    Friday, 20 June 2014

    Why I Decided to Breastfeed (Keep Britain Breastfeeding Scavenger Hunt 2014)

    Today is my Due Date so I thought that maybe it's the best time to talk about breastfeeding. Few weeks ago I came across a thread on C & G Community where lady was seeking support as she was intending to bottle feed her baby, she felt that there is more support for those who are breastfeeding their babies than for those you prefer alternative method.
    That made me think- why I never even thought about bottle feeding?! For me it was never a choice between breastfeeding and bottle feeding, it seems like a natural thing to do-breast feed.
    When someone asks me what will I chose breast feed or bottle feed I reply by saying that I would like to breast feed, as obviously I can't predict what will happen in the future and I may change my mind, but that's what I'm aiming for and I can't dismiss breastfeeding without trying it first.

    I have read few books about breastfeeding and attended NHS breastfeeding class whilst pregnant in a hope it will make me more confident and knowledgeable. I think it helped a lot to understand the nature of breastfeeding, it's benefits for both mum and baby, but the most difficult job is ahead of me. I do understand that it could and would be hard at first, but I'm looking forward to these moments of bonding with my little L.

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    Monday, 2 June 2014

    Book review: Breastfeeding made easy by Carlos Gonzalez


    I guess nothing in the world can prepare you for something you have never experienced until you actually try it yourself. As I intend to breastfeed I was delighted to know that I have been picked to review "Breastfeeding made easy" book by Carlos Gonzalez (£11.99)- a pediatrician, father of 3 and a breastfeeding supporter. 

    He tackles many real life questions from how to get started through to solids and going back to work.  He also covers treating illness, how to succeed in difficult circumstances and the importance of good support and how to access it.  

    In his characteristic friendly style, and by tackling head-on the real- life questions mothers have about breastfeeding, he explains:
    • How breastfeeding works, and why most mothers, with support, can do it if they want to
    • How myths and misinformation can derail mothers, and how to avoid this 
    • How to manage introducing solid foods, weaning from the breast, and going back to work 
    • The proven heath benefits of breastfeeding, for babies and their mothers 
    • How treating illness, in mother and baby, needn’t mean the end of breastfeeding 
    • How breastfeeding can succeed even in difficult circumstances 
    • The importance of good breastfeeding support, and how to access it. 
    What I wanted to learn from the book: I was expecting for it to give me clues on how to breastfeed, positions, best time for breastfeeding and something that can make breastfeeding easy.

    I must admit that after reading the First Chapter I thought that I won't carry on reading as it was too "heavy", it had a scientific feel to it which made it more difficult for me to "attach" to as a book. As I was determined to read the book I carried on with other chapters.
    Carlos comes across as knowledgeable, reassuring and a supportive person, which I think is essential. He talks about breastfeeding on demand, that it can not only be what baby wants, but when mother wants it too (within reason).
    Throughout the book he mentions the term "western mothers", and the fact that he doesn't approve of their approach to breastfeeding or the way they think e.g. "My milk is drying up, I must give him another bottle" or "Poor little thing, he was crying because he had a lot of gas". He says that breastfeeding on demand has always existed and scheduled feeds are a modern invention.

    Carlos gives valuable advice in each chapter but due to the volume of information it makes it difficult to digest as some of us prefer a quick "dip" (for that you can use detailed content section) into the book for a quick answer or someone prefers more tables and illustrations.


    Unfortunately for me as a first-time parent (to-be) none of the information properly sank in, therefore I would recommend this book, but for those parents who have time on their hands to read the book and to dig in information, for second, third..time parents who already know what to do but looking for an alternative view.

    DISCLAIMER: I was sent the above item for the purposes of this review. All thoughts and opinion are my own. 

    Wednesday, 14 May 2014

    Breastfeeding NHS session and Birth Choices Workshop

    Breastfeeding NHS session:

    Last week I attended a breastfeeding session in my local children's centre. I was told about this session on one of my appointments with a midwife and I thought that even though I'm reading a book about breastfeeding and can research online it's very important to meet expectant mothers and to talk to a specialist.

    At first it was slightly awkward as mums-to-be didn't really talk much between each other and we had to wait for the midwife who was running late. When she eventually turned up I was under impression that she has a very "vibrant" personality, to be honest with you I didn't know should I laugh or should I sit there with a face "what's going on here". Anyway the story is not about her (she turned out to be a very knowledgeable person in the end), so we spoke about:

    Benefits of breastfeeding for a child:
    - lowers risk of gastroenteritis
    - lowers risk of ear infection
    - lowers risk of diabetes
    - lowers risk of obesity

    Benefits of breastfeeding for the mother:
    - lowers risk of breast cancer
    - helps to lose pregnancy weight
    reduces risk of depression

    We were told though that it can only work out if we breastfeed exclusively.

    Midwife also showed us comfortable positions for breastfeeding:
    - to hold a baby like a rugby ball (can be good for those mums who had c- section)
    - a position when a baby is lying on a side and his/her face, stomach and knees facing mother
    - to nurse while lying on a side in a bed
    In all positions showed we had to hold baby's head with our hand by making a C-shape around the neck, which I felt was slightly uncomfortable for me.

    How to express milk by hand:
    - to slightly massage the breast
    - to use thumb and the rest of our fingers in a C-shape and gently squeeze the area (where texture of the breast feels different)
    - if milk doesn't flow to try moving fingers slightly towards nipple or further away

    Benefits of using our own expressed milk and/or Lansinoh cream and how it can soothe sore and cracked nipples, feeding cups and syringes as it can be an alternative to breastfeeding in these early days when a new mum struggles with breastfeeding.

    Midwife also showed us breast pads and nursing bras, we were told that it is more practical to use washable breast pads and the most comfortable and cheap nursing bras are from Mothercare.

    At the end of the session we had Q&A, everyone decided to use their opportunity to ask not just breastfeeding related question but what bothers them the most, but here I will mention only few of breastfeeding related questions:

    Can I get pregnant while breastfeeding? Yes.
    Do I need to use both breasts for nursing? Yes and no, we need to watch our baby, if we feel she\he might be hungry to offer a second breast.
    How do I know that my baby is latched on correctly? We need to check the position of our baby, to place our baby with his/her nose level with the nipple.
    Can flat- chested women breastfeed? Yes.
    Can I breastfeed in public? Yes, all women are different and some feel comfortable without covering themselves, where as others may prefer to go somewhere quieter and/or cover when breastfeeding.
    Can breasts leak when I hear mine or someone else's baby cry? Yes they can, therefore we were advised to use breast pads as it can happen in the public place.
    Do I need to burp my baby if I'm breastfeeding? Typically breast fed babies don't need to be burped as much as bottle fed babies, some breast fed don't need to be burped at all.
    Why baby can seem drunk after breastfeeding? It is a satisfying look of a well fed baby.
    Do I need to avoid food or drink while breastfeeding? No, but obviously be very carefully with the food we eat and watch what we drink.

    Birth Choices Workshop:

    The first free 2-hour workshop we had last week was more about us all getting to know each other, therefore it is hard to say that I have learnt something new except from learning more about other mum/dads-to-be. Sessions themselves are facilitated by 2 local antenatal teachers, one of them is a student midwife and the other one knows parenting from a practical side.

    We have discussed benefits and drawbacks of home and hospital births through a small group work (hands up who likes group works) and generally it was more of a discussion between all of us rather than teachers talking to us.

    During these 2 hours we were divided into groups most of the time where we had to guess from pictures what does the baby do (my husband had to show it to the class by using toys, I actually thought that mum do all the job), what does the woman's body do and how can we make the process of birth work effectively.

    Our teachers also covered physiology and the role of hormones (Adrenaline stay away!!), dispel myths and talk about our options of where to birth our baby (I think most of us picked hospital anyway).


    I can't say that I have learnt much but before we even started antenatal classes I knew that I want to know more about labour and coping skills more. Let's see what we will do on our next paid session.

    Friday, 2 May 2014

    Breastfeeding: Breast pumps Wish List

    This weeks I am starting new section "Breastfeeding" and our first feature- Breast pumps: manual and electric. As you know I try to pick budget variants only, with manual ones it was easier than with electric pumps (my favourite is Difrax-it looks so funky).
    Manual breast pumps: 

    1. Tommee Tippee Closer to Nature Manual Breast Pump- Mothercare £12.99

    2. Philips Avent Natural Manual Breast Pump- Mothercare £24.00


    Electric breast pumps:

    1. Medela Mini Electric Breast Pump- Kiddicare £50.39

    2. Tommee Tippee Closer To Nature Electric Breast Pump Set- Mothercare, BabiesRUs £65.99

    3. Medela Swing Breast Pump including Calma Solitare- BabiesRUs £85.66

    4. Philips AVENT Comfort Electric Breast Pump- Argos £91.99

    5. Lansinoh 2-in-1 Affinity Pro Electric Breast Pump- Mothercare, Kiddicare £120

    6. Difrax BtoB breast pump- £149.99


    Disclaimer: I have a written consent from all brands mentioned to use above pictures.

    Wednesday, 2 April 2014

    28 weeks appointment with a midwife


    Last Thursday I had a routine appointment with my community midwife, well I thought I will see my midwife, but it was different one again. I actually liked her, up until I came home and looked at my pregnancy notes.

    Prior to my appointment I have booked whooping cough vaccination and a Maternity Unit tour, so these 2 things were out of the way and I was intrigued to see what we will talk about during this appointment. I think I have spent there at least 20 minutes as she talked me through Pelvic Girdle Dysfunction (PGD) I have, she was kind enough to refer me to physio therapist.

    We spoke about breastfeeding, few things she said made me laugh inside, as I'm not sure that they are true, for instance she was referring that breasfeeding  may help to lose weight (well this doesn't make any sense for now at least as I know of ladies who put on weight while breasfeeding due to them drinking/eating specific food which will benefit baby) or your baby won't have eczema (my husband has eczema and his mum was breastfeeding him).
    As there are no NHS antenatal classes as such they still try to provide support when they can, I have been offered to attend 2 hour session where midwife will be talking about breastfeediing, I thought that I can't miss this opportunity and booked myself in for May.

    Then she did a routine check of my urine, send me to do some blood tests, checked baby's heartbeat and checked my blood pressure, which was high again (140/90), but according to my cardiologist if I had high blood pressure every day they would be more concerned and this (having it from time to time) seems normal to them.

    The last check I had at this appointment was measuring the size of my uterus with a tape measure. When she did measurements she clearly stated its 26 cm and said it's small, then looked at my notes and while putting something down said that it's actually average, which made me feel relieved as everyone commenting that I have a small bump, and when you hear it over and over again you inevitably start to worry. When I came home I decided to check what she wrote (I check it every time and I think I need to do it there and than form now on), everything seems fine until I saw growth chart- instead of putting 26cm, which actually makes me below any centile line, she put slightly more than 26cm which makes me average (which is obviously not what she told me). So I have texted my midwife saying that I'm concerned and what I've been told and what is written in my notes are too different things, still waiting for her to come back to me...


    What was/is your experience with a growth chart? Should I be worried?