Decision made- we are moving out!

Last Friday evening we decided to change our routine slightly and not to go to the swimming pool, we thought that it would be nice to mix up our plans this weekend and we were planning to go to park on Saturday (which we did) and to the pool on Sunday (which never happened).

On Saturday after park we came home, were preparing to relax and watch TV when heard someone knocking on our back door, which normally never happens as our family and friends use front door only.

It was our next door neighbour asking to move our car as the van (I guess their mate) couldn't get through her car and my husband's car. Well she didn't explain that I knew it as when we parked we saw the van at the back of our garden, she just demanded to move the car.

Cutting long story short, I had to go outside as I heard her shouting at my husband over car parking, and few seconds later her partner ran towards them not to take park in the conversation but to make things worse, to assault my husband...These few minutes of my life flew so quick, I don't remember much as I was in total shock, but I remember her angry face, how she was running towards my husband and me shouting "Stop, stop".

That Saturday evening we spent in police station, and Sunday in A&E to note injuries from the accident. That was our last weekend in the house where we spent last 3 years, that was the weekend of horror, stress, tears.

We couldn't bare staying in this house any longer, we couldn't stay there knowing that next door to us live bullies, we couldn't be safe there.

On Sunday we moved in with in laws, I do appreciate their support and help but it's just not enough space for all of us here especially with a baby due this Friday.

On Monday I woke up around 3 am as all I could dream of was uncertainty we have, our baby arriving in the messiest time of our lives, us sharing the small house between 5 people, us not having our own corner. I just couldn't stop crying, the only thing I was wishing for was our baby being overdue. We needed, we had to search for our own house before she arrives.

But I think luck is on our side this week (fingers crossed), we have found one place available immediately, it is much smaller than our previous house but it means we can move in within next week, we might have our own nest! I can't express how positive I feel at the moment knowing that baby will be safe, we will be safe, no more putting up with neighbours or sharing place between 2 households.

It is such a relief! Please wish us luck and keep fingers crossed for us and our future!

Beware neighbours..

                                                          

Do you know what I'm dreaming of? I'm dreaming to live in piece and quiet, to have respectful neighbours (hereafter "N") and ideally to have my own home.

This morning I have been woken up by some noise coming from outside, as by nature I'm interested in things around me, I looked through the window and saw lots of wires lying in our front garden, my first thought- "N".

So I went downstairs to make some breakfast and tea while looking through the window onto our back garden, what I saw surprised me a lot. I saw our "N" walking casually into our garden and moving our dust bins out of her way. At that point I opened the window to ask whats going on and to remind them that its trespassing. I was incredibly surprised to hear that our garden is a communal area and as the owner of the property they have access to our garden if they need to do any works, she apologised and said that next time will let us know of any works and just carried on doing her own thing in our garden.

At that point I felt that I am like a boiling kettle, that something is not right here, that what they are doing is wrong regardless of her apologising for intrusion. Without hesitation I called our estate agency to speak with agent who told me to tell "N" to go away (my initial thought and reaction to everything I saw in the garden), I thought that it will be better if the agent will tell it to "N" herself as our representative, so I passed on the phone to "N". While "N" had conversation with agent contractor told me that "N" said that she sorted everything with us and we knew that they are coming which wasn't a case. 

Anyway, after "N"passed me the phone back agent told me that in the "N"  Owner Deeds says that they have access and its communal area (which makes me wonder how on earth we never been told about this, I'm sure we have a right to know these things). Basically we cant do anything about it but ideally they need to let us know of any works before hand.

When I put the phone down I started thinking what will follow after all these..we are not mates with our "N" due to noise nuisance issues we have had before. Last year I had to knock on their door at 4 am as we couldn't sleep because we could hear noises and laughter coming from their house, so when I knocked on the door she started swearing, telling me that if you don't like it move out or call the police..in the morning as she still was unhappy that I interrupted them she started banging on the walls, on our front door ( I know that she did it on purpose, not a coincidence).

I am terrified, scared even to think about our upcoming weekend, and how they can “punish” us again for complaining. As a tenant I feel absolutely helpless against an owner of the property.

You cant even imagine how I want this nightmare to end, not to be forced to go to spare room as they having an argument or being loud, to wake up or fall asleep not hearing them at all, to look in the garden and not seeing them there (3 occasion of their trespassing without notifying us), I want piece and quiet for us 3...